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Do Good

So the summertime heat has finally broken here in North Texas (for the time being at least) to where we can breathe again and want to spend some time outside.  The dog is running around the yard again and college football is in the air.  School starts next week and all will be back into the swing of things.  There is nothing like a brisk day to put your mood into check.  Puts me into an incredibly good mood and so now it is time to do some “fall cleaning” of the house to prepare for the hunkering down for the winter.  The dog days are over!
It also gives me pause to ponder the important things in my life.  The things that REALLY matter.  The things that make me feel whole.  My family, my friends, my new health coach colleagues, my clients, my almost clients and the like.  As we race through life, I think some times we tend to forget to take a step back and remember exactly why we are here-what is really important in the grand scheme of things.
Yes, of course, our jobs are intensly important and there so our bills can be paid and so that we can feel accomplished (hopefully) but what really matters, what really makes us whole and accomplished are the OTHER things in life….watching our kids smile broadly at doing something they love, listening to them wrestle in the other room laughing and loving, my son’s asking if he can sleep with his sister for just one more night, having the dog come over and rub his head on you asking to be loved just one more time, watching my husband smile because all is well, spending time with some of the best friends I know laughing, singing, dancing and just blowing it out one last time before school starts for the kiddos., having time for a personal conversation with God…but let us not forget about doing things for others-doing them without the need for high fives, accolades, awards or the like.  These are the things that are really important-that make us healthy.  That make us the people that God intended.
Below you will find a link to an incredible video that brings it all full circle…be happy, generous to a fault and love deeply even when you are angry or stressed.  Life is indeed short…live it now, live it correctly, live it happily and do good…real honest good…
I am…
In good health..

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So my daughter has this friend who is so bright and shiny and never seems to have a bad day.  They are going into 8th grade so they are in “THAT” time of their lives-pre-teen girls.  This girl, however, is different.  She once told me that she wakes up every day and tells herself that she is going to have a great day-and then she does.  She chooses to smile.  That’s pretty deep for a girl so young-to understand that she has a choice in how she lives, how she will affect herself and others.  That does not mean she doesn’t have struggles, but it is how she chooses to deal with them that makes the difference.  I’m 43 years old and still struggle with that.

In all my personal work, I still have not been able to grasp the idea that only I am responsible for myself and my attitude.  That I get to choose how people affect me and how I deal with situations and problems.  That being a certain way is a choice….

This world is so full of bitterness and blame and it makes me sad.  I am not immune from that sterotype either.  I have been known to have a sharp tongue but to be honest, I hate it.  Inside I scream at myself because I HATE to hurt people-I would rather hurt myself than others.  But that’s all wrong too…what I need to do is be true to myself and honest with myself and then perhaps I wouldn’t have to sling uglies at others. I need to be happy for the lesson instead of upset that I had to learn it.

Frustrations about everything lie at every corner-no time, it’s hot, we need rain, the kids are driving me mad, my husband doesn’t understand, I don’t understand, I feel like a lazy loser, the house is a mess, I can’t catch up, we don’t have any money, my coworkers suck, my boss expects too much…blah blah blah complain complain complain.  But here is something that I would like to share about myself…that in all of those frustrations, I have this ideal that no matter what, we will be ok-whether it’s money or time or anything, I just believe that all will be fine-things will fall into the place they need to be and all is well.  Some people I know do not hold this same vision about life and therefore get upset at me for what they perceive as my lack of drive or maybe care is a better word, in certain situations.  I do care-I REALLY care, but I believe…I believe that God has a plan for me-for all of us.  I believe that if something doesn’t fall into the place I think I want it, then it wasn’t meant to go there or be that way and so therefore something else needs to happen.  I stress about so much “stuff’ in my life that to add the “what if’s” of the future would drive me to the looney house.  I am content in just having faith.

So, here is my point (to you and of course to myself)…Don’t stress-no really…don’t stress, believe that all will be well no matter what (it might not be fun or might be difficult but it will be ok), wake up each morning and tell yourself you are going to have a great day and have one (or at least start with having an hour or two)! This really is a choice you can make for yourself.

Be happy-really be happy-aren’t we so lucky to wake up and be alive?  We spend so much time being unhappy or finding the bad/negative in everything that we forget that the alternative is not being here at all.  Look at the small things in life and find SOMETHING that makes you happy and smile.  Watch your stress melt away from that one small “thing” you chose to find beautiful.

I watched my son the other day at one of his sports practices.  He isn’t particularly athletic-yet- but he smiled the entire time.  He wasn’t great at what they were doing, he wasn’t the fastest, he wasn’t the strongest-he even fell flat on his face at one point, but he smiled because he gave what he could and he CHOSE to enjoy himself even though he wasn’t what everyone perceives as “perfect” at it.  He felt perfect and that is all that really matters.  Bless him for showing me that. It is a picture that I will never ever forget.  I will forever use this as an example to myself and others.

I also like to use the pro-golfer Matt Kuchar as a great example of how a smile can change both yours and others’ lives.  After his Freshman year in college, he qualified for the greatest golfing championship in my opinion-The Masters. He should have been intimidated, he should have been scared and he should have been more serious-right?  But what he was was happy and grateful.  Kuchar swept the golf world off its feet with his smile and game, right under the shadow of Tiger and other incredibly successful professionals in the first round. As Woods and the others sputtered and fumed when their putts careened past the hole and clubs were slammed at bags when shots went awry (yes this did happen), Kuchar beamed-not because the other players were struggling but because he was having the time of his life, playing well and enjoying the moment and he wanted everyone to know it. To Kuchar a round of golf is a celebration in and of itself. To Woods and others on that course the game is a strategic tragedy fraught with peril at every turn of a dogleg – kick butt, take names and add them up at the end. In Woods’ mind, the only thing worth celebrating is total victory and nothing less. To Kuchar just playing the game and being out there was enough.  I don’t particularly remember much about that Masters except that Mark O’Meara did win the Championship but it was Kuchar who ran away with our hearts and will be forever burned into my memory of what was important that weekend.

So I also add SMILE-it might tick off a few people or make them question your motives, but do it anyway and be honest about it not mean.  People may even yell at you to “wipe off that shit eating grin from your face” (that happened to me just last week)-smile anyway-because it isn’t about them…it’s about you and your affect on yourself and the world around you and how you choose to deal with issues and problems.  It’s about being grateful for the moment or for the lesson you just got to learn.  Even if you make a mistake or say or do something you regret, smile-not because “you showed them” but because you are happy and you are healthy and you realize that maybe you shouldn’t have said or done that and that realization alone is a big postive step in becoming a better person.  That in itself is the lesson learned and something to be proud of and happy for.

I am a HUGE work in progress (I say it all the time), probably we all are.  But we can change our own worlds one step at a time.

I am…

In Good Health…



some information for this article taken from Florida Golf Monthly,Copyright 1996, 1997, 1998 Impact Interactive, Inc.

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Nothing is impossible when you believe…

I ran across this video and it filled me with inspiration..

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No One is REALLY Superior you know…

As I approach my newfound “full time” job with gusto, I am really seeing how human nature works (and how bad people truly do need a life and health coach and to work on themselves from the inside).  Because of the wonderful support granted by IIN and my colleagues and friends on the OEF (that’s the site we have at school for support and to ask questions etc), I have learned two things: 1) there is no rejection just selection and 2) you WILL get push back.  Well, in the last week I have seen both and for me it’s very telling about the nature of things today in America.

I am finding that people seem to take pleasure in watching others fail.  It is a sad state of affairs.  I mean, look, health coaching is not for everyone, I am not naive enough to think that each and every person I approach will understand what I do much less want to work with me, and that is ok.  We are all in different places in our lives and much like a drug addict or alcoholic who won’t seek help, you can not MAKE someone want to be healthy-they have to do it on their own be ready for the change and the hard work.  They need to be at their whits end and say I’ve had enough of this lfe (now before anyone gets all worked up-I am NOT in any way linking all unhealthy people to alcholism and drug addiction-it was simply an example).

The other day I was chatting with a few friends while my son was at JuJitsu-their sons also take the class.  I have met some of the most beautiful people in my short time here in North Texas and am really very lucky to be able to visit with them each week in different locales.  These people are so real and raw and I am loving just learning about them and being their friends.

There is a new mom who brought her two gorgeous boys into the class.  I introduced myself to her on the first day she was there but as I am TERRIBLE with names, I reintroduced myself and gave her my card this week.  She looked at my card and said, huh a health coach…then she began to pepepr me with questions as if it were an interrogation.

Here I am saying to myself…ok, here it comes, you worked hard all year for this…elevator speech, I am ready…I am confident in what I do so I can answer any questions with honesty and the knowledge that I do have.  What I wasn’t ready for was the confrontational way she asked me questions…kind of like I know this stuff but do you-obviously you don’t?

You see, she explained that her house is gluten free, dairy free among other “free” things.  She is lucky that she had the wherewithall to realize that something was amiss and do the research for her family to make them better.  If only more people would be so bold!  But because she has had to do extensive research on the gluten side of things, she has a ton of knowledge-and that is great (I wish more people were like her in that manner)!  The problem with knowledge is sometimes people do not know how to handle it properly and can get very confrontational if they feel like someone has inferior information.  The issue I had was I felt very attacked by her…like she was trying to make sure I knew that I knew less about the subject and she knew more therefore rendering me invalid at my choice of careers.  And you know what…I DO know less about it-and I am not afraid to admit that. Each and every time she asked me a question about my “knowledge” and I began to answer-she interrupted my answer to tell me in so many words/ways that I was incorrect and she knows more.  In a sense tell me I know nothing and she knows everything.  Ok…that’s ok…

I listened to her because I think that is what she needed-to feel superior at that point in time.  Then I turned the conversation around to what she does for a living and supported her as much as I could in her explanation of her job (and it is a really cool job that she does).  I too, have extensive business acumen…I have run a multi-million dollar company with my dad but I do not choose to challenge people on whether I can do it better, but I choose to be supportive and be the “atta girl” kind of person.  Use my knowledge constructively and learn each and every day from others.

What I learned from this situation is how to handle superiority complexes…I think, actually, that people who need to be that way have so many other “things” going on in their lives that they are unhappy with.  I believe that NO ONE is superior to others…you can not make your own heartbeat.

So what I did is learn a lesson from this sitaution and I sat down and I prayed for her.  I prayed for peace in her life from whatever it is that she is struggling with (or doesn’t know that she is struggling with).  And, I look forward to seeing her again upon our return to the next JuJitsu class.  I think she is beautiful and I learned so much from her about a subject that I am not yet a master!

Kindness and understanding…

The second time this week that I have run into people who seem to selfishly want others to fail is at my gym.  We belong to a new gym…it is beautiful with sparkling new equipment, but does not have a huge membership yet.  I work out there almost every day of the week-trying to keep healthy the best way I know how.  Normally when I am working out, the personal trainers are in there either with their clients or working themselves out.  They are a thing of beauty-you should see them-no fat and beautiful lean muscles.  Strong and lovely people.  Valid to be helping those who are in need of support in their health journeys.

I approached the manager last week to introduce myself and let him know who I am and what I do.  You see, I had not seen or heard (and I listen) any of the trainers talking nutrition with their clients.  Of course, I am not privy to their private conversations but in general, most personal trainers are not trained in bioindividuality of nutrition-they either give their one type diet plan or put them on weight loss products.  So I thought maybe I could partner with the gym and their trainers to give these people something that they are not yet exposed to.  The manager seemed very on board.  My product does not compete at all with what their mission is, it only compliments it.  Aren’t we all out to do one thing-help people?

WRONG…apparently we are not all out for that in this health journey…apparently some of us are out for the almighty dollar and that is all.  You see, for some reason at least one of the trainers must feel like I am trying to impede upon his ability to get clients.  I do not know why because if he actually stopped and thought about it, he would see that I have offered to drive my clients to the gym (membership and more $$ for the owners) and to him and his colleagues (more $$) and if they felt their clients might be able to use my service from time to time for those that may not be able to fully help (mind body and soul) then please send them my way.

Here again, he seems so wrapped up in superiority to forget that he does not know everything…he is not an expert in everything health (none of us are).  My own personal trainer said it like this…the best heart surgeons in the world do not know much about the rest of the body because they do not have to-they are heart surgeons and we expect that they know that part of the human body like the back of their hands-they don’t try to be specialists in other part of the body-they refer.

Unless he has a certification from IIN, he knows nothing really about what I can do to supplement his work with his clients.  So, instead of admitting that to himself and choosing to think about what is best for his clients…he has chosen to snuff me out…to make sure that I do not have access to ANY of the clientelle at the gym through the trainers.  How completely selfish can one person be?  Now, the other trainers, whom I have had discussions about working a referral system with and who are on board because they want the best for their clients (and could get more from my referrals as well) will not get the refernce from me after all.  Because one person’s inferiority complex has shown through, he has ruined it for others too.

There is no rejection just selection…there is no rejection just selection…there is no rejection just selection…sigh I have to keep telling myself this.

My job is to help people get healthy and work through their issues in their lives, the way I do each and every day for myself.  What I have learned from these two people as well as numerous others is that we are all a work in progress.  Some are farther along than others and some may never come to terms with the fact that, for the most part, we are all out to accomplish the same goal…we need to be more gentle with one another. Utilize each other’s strengths to come to that common goal.  I am not out to take you down, take money out of your pocket, make you think I know it all and you know nothing.  I am not out to make you feel less than you are or take anything from you at all.  I want to be there to partner with others who carry the same vision and mission I do…I want to learn as much as I can for as long as I can so that I can pass along health, happiness, love and understanding.  I try to learn from the knowledge of others and utilize that each and every day in my own journey.

So, let’s all be gentle with one another…let’s NOT look at things from the negative or be on the attack.  It seems so angry and mean to take pleasure in the failure of others and to be frank it takes so much more energy.  Let’s work together for a common good-for a common outcome.  Put the arrogance aside and remember what we do this for (and while the almighty dollar is grand it sure as hell shouldn’t be the raison d’etre).

Be gentle-and as they said in England during the war..”keep calm and carry on”.

I am…

In good health…


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Face the Fear

So, I DID IT!!!  I resigned from my job at the school system and have taken a part time job with a firm that does land deals-more up my alley AND this allows me much more flexibility to continue building my health coaching business!  I feel really good about not having to do a job that my soul was not in but now I am a bit nervous about the future (even though my soul is in this one).  They say that you should face your fears head on, acknowledge them and do it anyway.  Well, I’m jumping in with two feet and my eyes closed.  I am so very excited about this new phase of my life but fearful I am.

I think the biggest issue is that this will be a test for me.  This will show myself if I can practice what I preach…can I talk the talk..get out there and market myself enough for people to see how valid I truly am?  I KNOW with everything that I am and have that I am good at this, that I know what I am doing and that I am ready for the big time, but will some ugly part of me show up that deep down I knew about myself but didn’t want to admit? Some things that I have not yet confronted in my personal work?

For instance…am I lazy?  Have I been so lucky in life that everything pretty much went the way I wanted it to so that now I have no skills to work hard to be a success?  Does it really matter how bad I want this?  Will I sabatoge myself?  Will someone else sabatoge me along the way enough that I can’t recover?  FEAR FEAR FEAR FEAR rearing its ugly head from everywhere…

They say that your life will end up where your thoughts go…so I have to figure out how to step outside of the fear and show people that I can help them make a change in their lives-that I am the “real deal” that I truly CARE about their outcomes in this world.

So for today, I will hold my head high, smile inside and out and feel proud that I have taken the first step towards a really killer life…this is the best way I know how to face the fear in the beginning.

Step 1-take care of yourself first before you can attempt to take care of others ——quit unhealthy job…CHECK!!!

I have a sign on my wall that says, ” What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?”-it’s a valid question and a great way to face my fear head-on.

I am..

In good health…


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It may not be personal

So I have noticed a lot lately that many people I know complain about how their friends and families are just not there for them when they need them.  They are furious and feel like they have been abandoned at their biggest time of need.  Whatever their struggles may be, they just can’t seem to come to terms with the fact that someone didn’t give them the sympathy they required.  They have the “I thought you were my TRUE friend, my REAL friend wouldn’t have done that” syndrome.  But here is my take on this situation.

I think we all have to remember that people, especially our friends, do not owe us anything.  There is not a rule book on what a true or real friend looks like or is supposed to be or how they are supposed to act.  Each (individual) person has their own needs-requirements if you will, of their friends. Each person is different and may only be able to give their friendship in small ways.  When we struggle with what life throws at us we tend to need what we consider support-but really let’s be honest, we want people to feel for us, know everything we are going through, feel our pain, I hesitate to admit even feel sorry for us.

It is all about us at that moment and we want everyone to make sure they are front and center in our issues and problems and that WE (our issues/problems/dark times) are front and center in their lives.  That only those people who are the very truest of friends will make the efforts to stroke our egos by supporting us through our bad/hard/difficult times-the others be damned.  When that one person we feel should have been there for us just wasnt (or couldn’t be) then we take it personally like who the hell do they think they are not being there for me in my times of hardship? “I thought I knew her”, “what a jerk”…We all seem to say I love you unconditionally or I am your friend unconditionally, etc ….. as long as you meet my conditions!

Don’t you think this is very arrogant and I dare say vain?  We all want to be there for our friends any time they may need us and frankly I do not know a single person who wants bad things to happen to others especially their friends.  But if a person does not or is not able to reach out in your times of trouble, that does not mean that that person does not love you or think about you or wish the bad to go away and that you have peace.  Maybe, just maybe, those “horrible people I thought were my friends” are going through something themselves.  Maybe all they could muster is a prayer for peace for you.  Maybe a good thought and well wishes is all that they can handle.  Perhaps what is happening in their lives doesn’t give them the strength to “be there” properly for what you require of them as a friend in need.  Maybe their manner of grieving for you will never be enough for you anyway??!!

But shouldn’t it be?

So I say let’s all back up and give the people in our lives a break.  Try to look at it from another perspective.  Maybe it has absolutely nothing to do with you (WHAT?) and your anger at the situation is completely unfounded and unfair.

Steven Covey, the author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People wrote about paradigm shifts (looking at something from a different angle).  He writes: “… he was traveling in a subway, a man gets in with his two sons, the sons are running all over the place bothering the people, this continues, so he finally gets irritated enough to ask the father why he doesn’t do something to control his kids. The father replies, “We just got back from the hospital where their mother died. I don’t know how to handle it and I guess they don’t either.”

Suddenly you see everything differently. That is the power of a paradigm shift. They are the same kids yelling and screaming in the subway, but you look at them and understand them in a different way. All of a sudden their lack of respect for you and your space may have a valid reason in your eyes and your opinion of how they handled you and your situation may not look so dire and ugly.

Perhaps this is how we should look at our lives with regards to how others fit into them.  We all have our own journeys that we are on…ones in which we may not be able to  understand or “be there” for others whom we may love otherwise but can not find the energy or ability to show at that moment.  This certainly doesn’t mean that we love our friends less or that we do not care.  Perhaps, even in our own pain, we should attempt to “see” those people from another angle.

Let’s be gentle with each other.  We all are not privy to what others may be going through even if we think we are.  Be ok with not always getting the reaction that you want (or think you need).  We all need to jump out of our own arrogance for five seconds to understand that when one begins to place requirements (spoken or expected) on people in order for them to be your friends, then that negates what a true friend really is.   There shouldn’t be strings attached.  Maybe, just maybe this has absolutely nothing to do with you after all.  This is a hard lesson that I admit to not wanting to learn either..  It is so much easier to blame others than just to be ok with what happens (or doesn’t)  Be happy, be healthy and have peace in your lives friends!

I am… In Good Health…Linda


Go to a local farmer’s market.  Even if you have never been or do not know what to buy-just go.  See the fresh vegetables, fruits, coffee, crafts, soaps, breads, fresh eggs just off the farm, grass fed (well cared for) meats, fresh homemade olive oils and the like.

Walk around and take in all the sights, sounds and smells of hard work, dedication to health and happiness.  Even if you don’t buy anything just feel the amazing energy that surrounds you. Feel the happiness-it feels almost like a sigh of relief.  I know this sounds silly but just go to see what I am talking about.

You are going to want to buy something, this I promise.  You may not know what to buy.  I say look for something out of your comfort zone.  Something just for you that you may not even have the courage to share with your family that you purchased for fear of ridicule.  Let it be your secret.  Or, buy some fresh oranges, apples or peaches.  Eat one as you walk around and let the cool juice drip down your arm!  Be a kid again-allow yourself to dream and feel free.  Let go of what is happening currently in your life for just a moment.

Take some of those oranges home and squeze them fresh and serve yourself the juice in a goblet or stemmed glass with some ice-you deserve no less. Savor it… it will taste different that I promise.

Or, get some fresh local tomatoes  and fresh rosemary-slice them up and lay them in a glass pyrex-type dish (cover the bottom with some cooking spray).  Cover each slice with fresh garlic, some leaves of fresh rosemary and a bit of parmesan cheese.  Place in 400 degree oven until cheese is melted sufficiently and serve as a side dish or even as your main course! YUUUMMMMYYY!

This is the work of the small business.  Local farm to market foods beyond compare.  God’s bounty and gifts to us all!  Enjoy it!  PEACE!