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Do Good

So the summertime heat has finally broken here in North Texas (for the time being at least) to where we can breathe again and want to spend some time outside.  The dog is running around the yard again and college football is in the air.  School starts next week and all will be back into the swing of things.  There is nothing like a brisk day to put your mood into check.  Puts me into an incredibly good mood and so now it is time to do some “fall cleaning” of the house to prepare for the hunkering down for the winter.  The dog days are over!
It also gives me pause to ponder the important things in my life.  The things that REALLY matter.  The things that make me feel whole.  My family, my friends, my new health coach colleagues, my clients, my almost clients and the like.  As we race through life, I think some times we tend to forget to take a step back and remember exactly why we are here-what is really important in the grand scheme of things.
Yes, of course, our jobs are intensly important and there so our bills can be paid and so that we can feel accomplished (hopefully) but what really matters, what really makes us whole and accomplished are the OTHER things in life….watching our kids smile broadly at doing something they love, listening to them wrestle in the other room laughing and loving, my son’s asking if he can sleep with his sister for just one more night, having the dog come over and rub his head on you asking to be loved just one more time, watching my husband smile because all is well, spending time with some of the best friends I know laughing, singing, dancing and just blowing it out one last time before school starts for the kiddos., having time for a personal conversation with God…but let us not forget about doing things for others-doing them without the need for high fives, accolades, awards or the like.  These are the things that are really important-that make us healthy.  That make us the people that God intended.
Below you will find a link to an incredible video that brings it all full circle…be happy, generous to a fault and love deeply even when you are angry or stressed.  Life is indeed short…live it now, live it correctly, live it happily and do good…real honest good…
I am…
In good health..
Linda


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SMILE!

So my daughter has this friend who is so bright and shiny and never seems to have a bad day.  They are going into 8th grade so they are in “THAT” time of their lives-pre-teen girls.  This girl, however, is different.  She once told me that she wakes up every day and tells herself that she is going to have a great day-and then she does.  She chooses to smile.  That’s pretty deep for a girl so young-to understand that she has a choice in how she lives, how she will affect herself and others.  That does not mean she doesn’t have struggles, but it is how she chooses to deal with them that makes the difference.  I’m 43 years old and still struggle with that.

In all my personal work, I still have not been able to grasp the idea that only I am responsible for myself and my attitude.  That I get to choose how people affect me and how I deal with situations and problems.  That being a certain way is a choice….

This world is so full of bitterness and blame and it makes me sad.  I am not immune from that sterotype either.  I have been known to have a sharp tongue but to be honest, I hate it.  Inside I scream at myself because I HATE to hurt people-I would rather hurt myself than others.  But that’s all wrong too…what I need to do is be true to myself and honest with myself and then perhaps I wouldn’t have to sling uglies at others. I need to be happy for the lesson instead of upset that I had to learn it.

Frustrations about everything lie at every corner-no time, it’s hot, we need rain, the kids are driving me mad, my husband doesn’t understand, I don’t understand, I feel like a lazy loser, the house is a mess, I can’t catch up, we don’t have any money, my coworkers suck, my boss expects too much…blah blah blah complain complain complain.  But here is something that I would like to share about myself…that in all of those frustrations, I have this ideal that no matter what, we will be ok-whether it’s money or time or anything, I just believe that all will be fine-things will fall into the place they need to be and all is well.  Some people I know do not hold this same vision about life and therefore get upset at me for what they perceive as my lack of drive or maybe care is a better word, in certain situations.  I do care-I REALLY care, but I believe…I believe that God has a plan for me-for all of us.  I believe that if something doesn’t fall into the place I think I want it, then it wasn’t meant to go there or be that way and so therefore something else needs to happen.  I stress about so much “stuff’ in my life that to add the “what if’s” of the future would drive me to the looney house.  I am content in just having faith.

So, here is my point (to you and of course to myself)…Don’t stress-no really…don’t stress, believe that all will be well no matter what (it might not be fun or might be difficult but it will be ok), wake up each morning and tell yourself you are going to have a great day and have one (or at least start with having an hour or two)! This really is a choice you can make for yourself.

Be happy-really be happy-aren’t we so lucky to wake up and be alive?  We spend so much time being unhappy or finding the bad/negative in everything that we forget that the alternative is not being here at all.  Look at the small things in life and find SOMETHING that makes you happy and smile.  Watch your stress melt away from that one small “thing” you chose to find beautiful.

I watched my son the other day at one of his sports practices.  He isn’t particularly athletic-yet- but he smiled the entire time.  He wasn’t great at what they were doing, he wasn’t the fastest, he wasn’t the strongest-he even fell flat on his face at one point, but he smiled because he gave what he could and he CHOSE to enjoy himself even though he wasn’t what everyone perceives as “perfect” at it.  He felt perfect and that is all that really matters.  Bless him for showing me that. It is a picture that I will never ever forget.  I will forever use this as an example to myself and others.

I also like to use the pro-golfer Matt Kuchar as a great example of how a smile can change both yours and others’ lives.  After his Freshman year in college, he qualified for the greatest golfing championship in my opinion-The Masters. He should have been intimidated, he should have been scared and he should have been more serious-right?  But what he was was happy and grateful.  Kuchar swept the golf world off its feet with his smile and game, right under the shadow of Tiger and other incredibly successful professionals in the first round. As Woods and the others sputtered and fumed when their putts careened past the hole and clubs were slammed at bags when shots went awry (yes this did happen), Kuchar beamed-not because the other players were struggling but because he was having the time of his life, playing well and enjoying the moment and he wanted everyone to know it. To Kuchar a round of golf is a celebration in and of itself. To Woods and others on that course the game is a strategic tragedy fraught with peril at every turn of a dogleg – kick butt, take names and add them up at the end. In Woods’ mind, the only thing worth celebrating is total victory and nothing less. To Kuchar just playing the game and being out there was enough.  I don’t particularly remember much about that Masters except that Mark O’Meara did win the Championship but it was Kuchar who ran away with our hearts and will be forever burned into my memory of what was important that weekend.

So I also add SMILE-it might tick off a few people or make them question your motives, but do it anyway and be honest about it not mean.  People may even yell at you to “wipe off that shit eating grin from your face” (that happened to me just last week)-smile anyway-because it isn’t about them…it’s about you and your affect on yourself and the world around you and how you choose to deal with issues and problems.  It’s about being grateful for the moment or for the lesson you just got to learn.  Even if you make a mistake or say or do something you regret, smile-not because “you showed them” but because you are happy and you are healthy and you realize that maybe you shouldn’t have said or done that and that realization alone is a big postive step in becoming a better person.  That in itself is the lesson learned and something to be proud of and happy for.

I am a HUGE work in progress (I say it all the time), probably we all are.  But we can change our own worlds one step at a time.

I am…

In Good Health…

Linda

 

some information for this article taken from Florida Golf Monthly,Copyright 1996, 1997, 1998 Impact Interactive, Inc.


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BELIEVE

Nothing is impossible when you believe…

I ran across this video and it filled me with inspiration..

http://www.godvine.com/Man-Barely-Able-to-Stand-on-his-Own-Does-the-Unthinkable-Amazing-1476.html


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Face the Fear

So, I DID IT!!!  I resigned from my job at the school system and have taken a part time job with a firm that does land deals-more up my alley AND this allows me much more flexibility to continue building my health coaching business!  I feel really good about not having to do a job that my soul was not in but now I am a bit nervous about the future (even though my soul is in this one).  They say that you should face your fears head on, acknowledge them and do it anyway.  Well, I’m jumping in with two feet and my eyes closed.  I am so very excited about this new phase of my life but fearful I am.

I think the biggest issue is that this will be a test for me.  This will show myself if I can practice what I preach…can I talk the talk..get out there and market myself enough for people to see how valid I truly am?  I KNOW with everything that I am and have that I am good at this, that I know what I am doing and that I am ready for the big time, but will some ugly part of me show up that deep down I knew about myself but didn’t want to admit? Some things that I have not yet confronted in my personal work?

For instance…am I lazy?  Have I been so lucky in life that everything pretty much went the way I wanted it to so that now I have no skills to work hard to be a success?  Does it really matter how bad I want this?  Will I sabatoge myself?  Will someone else sabatoge me along the way enough that I can’t recover?  FEAR FEAR FEAR FEAR rearing its ugly head from everywhere…

They say that your life will end up where your thoughts go…so I have to figure out how to step outside of the fear and show people that I can help them make a change in their lives-that I am the “real deal” that I truly CARE about their outcomes in this world.

So for today, I will hold my head high, smile inside and out and feel proud that I have taken the first step towards a really killer life…this is the best way I know how to face the fear in the beginning.

Step 1-take care of yourself first before you can attempt to take care of others ——quit unhealthy job…CHECK!!!

I have a sign on my wall that says, ” What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?”-it’s a valid question and a great way to face my fear head-on.

I am..

In good health…

Linda


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Humanity

This video is a great example of what my last post was talking about…humanity is beautiful when it is treated like this…What an amazing human soul…if we look at people not from the eyes of aspersion but from the eyes of love, this is what can be accomplished…can you IMAGINE if we treated our families this way?  God bless you sir…

http://www.godvine.com/Man-Sets-a-Truly-Inspiring-Example-for-Humanity-336.html

Blessings to all…

I am…

In good health…

Linda