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Humanity

This video is a great example of what my last post was talking about…humanity is beautiful when it is treated like this…What an amazing human soul…if we look at people not from the eyes of aspersion but from the eyes of love, this is what can be accomplished…can you IMAGINE if we treated our families this way?  God bless you sir…

http://www.godvine.com/Man-Sets-a-Truly-Inspiring-Example-for-Humanity-336.html

Blessings to all…

I am…

In good health…

Linda


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It’s the Little Things in Life

Today while I was washing my face I turned to find a tiny bag of bath salts and a bar of facial soap from the Omni Hotel in Chicago.  My husband returned late last night after being gone for a week on a business trip there.  What struck me the most wasn’t the items in themselves, though I admit I LOVE those kinds of self-indulging things, but that my husband thought that I might like them and made an effort to place them into his bag to bring them home as a gift to me.  He had grueling days and nights this past week but still managed to take a look at things that we all take for granted (soap in a hotel) and thought about someone else-about how I might love those things.

In this angry, ugly and tough and selfish world, maybe we could all learn something from this gesture.  To be gentle and kind and think of others in times of stress and feeling out of contol, somehow brings us back into control of our lives.  To remember the people we love and things that make them happy can be so good for our health-so good for our hearts.  Why not do something to make someone else feel special-to climb out of our selfish lives and into one of selflessness.

You say you don’t have the time?  I say how much time does it take to smile and ask how someone’s day is going or to toss a quarter into a homeless person’s hat…You say you don’t have the money….I say how expensive is it to pick a flower from the roadside to take to someone to make their day (incidently taking a walk in nature-however short is so good for your soul)?  You say you wouldn’t know what to give or do?  I say it doesn’t matter so long as it is from the heart-write a poem, simply draw a happy face on a piece of paper and say I love you or I am thinking about you.

We take for granted the people in our lives and that complacency is awful.  I think the little gestures and things in life can change a person and can change ourselves.  Maybe, just maybe, if we all stopped -slowed down our lives for just one moment and took stock of where we are and what we are doing, then many of us would realize that we are going through life without a TRUE purpose and perhaps would make the changes to be healthier and happier.  This would create a domino effect-can you IMAGINE what we could accomplish then?

Oh, and if you are the recipient of any wonderful gesture…don’t forget to acknowledge the person, smile and say thank you-and mean it…

Just some random thoughts…

I am…

In Good Health…

Linda


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Nutrition is so much more than food….

A holistic lifestyle is more than just eating organic foods and practicing yoga from time to time. It means paying attention to all aspects of your life: relationships, career, health and spirituality to be sure that you are living a life in balance. This might mean making some adjustments. The important thing to realize is they are not quick fixes.

Take a minute now to think about all areas of your life:

Relationships: Are you surrounded by people who stimulate you? Do your friends and romantic partner make you laugh and are they kind to you? Are there people you can be spending more time with or less time with? Make an effort to spend more time with those who fill your life with joy.

Career: Are you satisfied with your day-to-day job? Do you feel challenged by your boss and your coworkers? Do you feel that you are compensated well for your hard work? Are you happy more than you are stressed-out? Make a list of the things you love about your job and the things that you do not.

Spirituality: Do you have a spiritual practice? This can be anything from meditating to going to church on a regular basis.

Health: Pay attention to the foods you eat. Do you enjoy whole grains, fruits and vegetables every day? How often do you consume junk food? When you crave sweets write down what you are doing. Sometimes when we crave junk food it means that something else in our lives is out of balance.

Everyone could nourish their relationships, career, spirituality and health a little more. By nourishing all aspects of your life you will live a healthier and happier life. What are you going to do today?

 

By: Joshua Rosenthal


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RUSH

So I am caught somewhere between wanting this summer to fly by and wanting it to s-l-o-w down.  You see college football for us starts in 32 days-COLLEGE FOOTBALL-for me there is nothing like it-come on-bring it on-hurry up-I mean we are even going to my team’s first game being played at Cowboy Stadium-Alabama vs Michigan-ROLL TIDE-go BAMA-Rammer Jammer-you get it-yep I’m a BAMA fan through and through-win or lose Alabama all the way.  So I’m waiting-jumping up and down so to speak-for all of the trash talking hard hitting fall days to come around.

But isn’t that what most of the problem is, no, not college football-there will never be a time for me that that is a problem, but wanting to” hurry up” everything.  I blinked and my childhood and college days were over.  Now I’m a proud mom of two- who are growing up so fast I don’t know where that time went.  Hurry up-grow up would ya…

We want to rush everything anymore-the way we drive (get outta my way lady), the way we eat (I’ll have fries with that and I am in a hurry so could we get a move on), the way we love (I can’t wait until he asks me to marry him), the way we live (ahhh I’m late again-hurry up kids), the way we are married (let’s have kids right away).

———S-T-O-P———

I have found myself trying so hard to push my heels in the ground just to slow down. I often find myself screaming at the drivers in my neighborhood to SLOW DOWN as they speed along in front of my house.  Maybe it is time that I took my own advice (not literally as I already learned that lesson but that’s another story entirely).

I remember my childhood days so fondly-I had the best childhood-my parents are stellar people-I was NEVER unhappy.  I grew up between St. Croix in the US Virgin Islands and Orcas Island, WA (small island off the coast of Washington State)-an island girl – very little television and tons of outside adventures.  I don’t remember wanting to rush through life then-I remember trying to push the days to last a little longer- that last little drop of light so that I didn’t have to come inside for dinner and bedtime.  I even remember the smells.  Then one day-I had to leave for college-don’t get me wrong I was psyched about it but what I took with me are those fond memories of days long gone-my childhood.

College was a blast-I couldn’t wait for the next day to come-bring it on…I love school-I am one of those-if I could be a professional student and make money at it, I would so be the CEO of that organization!  I never can seem to get enough knowledge -whatever it may be-but I digress-college went WAY too fast.  I have friends asking if I remember the time about this or that and sometimes I am ashamed to realize that I do not.  I had so much fun rushing through that part of my life that I forgot to really live it.

Did you know I competed in the Pan American games in Cuba in 1991?  What an honor-what a time-oh but I rushed through that part of my life  too.  I had to look up the year of the games (I thought it was ’92) because I couldn’t remember-aint that pathetic.  All I remember is that I had the time of my life!  It all happened so fast – in the blink of an eye and it was over.

And from then on, that is how I have lived-not one day at a time but as fast as I could.

I have been so lucky all my life to have a great life, to live in many different places and meet many different people-some whom I will keep in my heart forever and whom I am grateful that God put in my path-some who came into my life, I guess, to teach me some lesson that I may or may not have learned-I wouldn’t know-my life is going too fast for me to bother to care-

But I do care-I now look back and think-where did it all go?  What lessons did I miss?  Whose hearts and souls did I trample along the way as I pushed the envelope of time?  I don’t regret a day of my life-I think it has molded me to be the person I am-that doesn’t mean I don’t regret some things that I have said or done-au contraire-I wish a lot of the time that I could go back and change the way I looked at a situation or person-but I can’t-

So, as I attempt to slow my life down and enjoy each day-I am feeling so much more free.  My stress levels are down, I FEEL happy, it’s affecting my children and husband-they feel it too-what a difference.  I am taking the time to TAKE CARE OF MYSELF now-like I did when I was a child.  I ate when I was hungry (not because I was bored or stressed out), I ran with my face in the sun and “drank up” all that natural Vitamin D so important to our health, I laughed, I smiled (go figure a simple gesture for yourself can do so much), I played with my dogs, I enjoyed being outside, I swam, I read-you get the picture…so as trivial as these things may seem to the ever busy adult (I don’t have time for such things I have more important things to do), I have figured it out…being this way,-s-l-o-w-i-n-g down doing the things that I WANT to do and not that I think I HAVE to do, has allowed me the time and the avenue to be the person I want to be-and now there are so many more options for my life…I’m starting to enjoy it.

The Fall and college football will come soon enough-doesn’t matter how much I try to slow down, it will be here before I know it (and I am STOKED) but for now, I just want to live for this summer, live for today…

Oh crud, I gotta run, I’m late…..

Ok I admit-it’s a work in progress.

I am…

IN GOOD HEALTH

AND ROLL TIDE!

Linda

TIP OF THE DAY: If you must, schedule some time for you (some time to give up the stresses and do something you love-or nothing at all)-think of the movie Pretty Woman when Julia Roberts takes the phone out of Richard Gere’s hand and hangs up on an important business call.  He finally succumbed to the pressure of letting go.  What is the worst that could happen to you?  I’m just sayin’ – NOTHING.  Try it for ten minutes, how about thirty or an hour…or here is a kicker-take a half day (or full day) off.  Don’t work, don’t cut the lawn or clean the house-don’t take any business calls-actually take it off-as if you were on a real vacation.  Do something you would NEVER think of doing…go to a baseball game (there are plenty), go to a waterpark, go to the movies-DO NOT RUMINATE about what you should be doing…let go -really.  When you return to “reality” I think you will see the difference… that perhaps “reality” isn’t what you are living but what you just lived.

STAY HAPPY AND SMILE!

 


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Trust your intuition

My mom suggested to me something that I want to share with you all.  But first, a little background…

I am really irritated about a situation of greed and disgusting behavior by an acquaintance.  I have never really had a great feeling about the person to begin with-his energy was off and you just know when someone doesn’t “feel right” to you. You just dont care for them (and he is super obnoxious to boot).  But I really like his wife so I have ignored my “feelings” about him and have tried to be kind at arm’s length.

He has done something to prove that I am very correct about my original assessment of him. I had heard he had done a similar thing to someone else but, again, I shelved my feelings thinking that there are two sides to every story and that perhaps someone was exagerating.  Well, I am here to tell you, there was no exageration.  Now I’m really irritated and just do not even want to be in the same room with him.

So here is what my mom said:

My mom suggested that I thank him (not to his face but just to myself). I thought she was freaking crazy for suggesting that but here is what she said…thank him for showing me that I was correct about my original assumption of him and that I can trust my intuition about people.

What an incredibly positive way to turn around a situation. So thank you, sir…I am grateful that I can now trust myself enough to know that you are indeed a jerk and you stink….ha-small steps….I’m a work in progress.

I am…

In Good Health

Linda


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It may not be personal

So I have noticed a lot lately that many people I know complain about how their friends and families are just not there for them when they need them.  They are furious and feel like they have been abandoned at their biggest time of need.  Whatever their struggles may be, they just can’t seem to come to terms with the fact that someone didn’t give them the sympathy they required.  They have the “I thought you were my TRUE friend, my REAL friend wouldn’t have done that” syndrome.  But here is my take on this situation.

I think we all have to remember that people, especially our friends, do not owe us anything.  There is not a rule book on what a true or real friend looks like or is supposed to be or how they are supposed to act.  Each (individual) person has their own needs-requirements if you will, of their friends. Each person is different and may only be able to give their friendship in small ways.  When we struggle with what life throws at us we tend to need what we consider support-but really let’s be honest, we want people to feel for us, know everything we are going through, feel our pain, I hesitate to admit even feel sorry for us.

It is all about us at that moment and we want everyone to make sure they are front and center in our issues and problems and that WE (our issues/problems/dark times) are front and center in their lives.  That only those people who are the very truest of friends will make the efforts to stroke our egos by supporting us through our bad/hard/difficult times-the others be damned.  When that one person we feel should have been there for us just wasnt (or couldn’t be) then we take it personally like who the hell do they think they are not being there for me in my times of hardship? “I thought I knew her”, “what a jerk”…We all seem to say I love you unconditionally or I am your friend unconditionally, etc ….. as long as you meet my conditions!

Don’t you think this is very arrogant and I dare say vain?  We all want to be there for our friends any time they may need us and frankly I do not know a single person who wants bad things to happen to others especially their friends.  But if a person does not or is not able to reach out in your times of trouble, that does not mean that that person does not love you or think about you or wish the bad to go away and that you have peace.  Maybe, just maybe, those “horrible people I thought were my friends” are going through something themselves.  Maybe all they could muster is a prayer for peace for you.  Maybe a good thought and well wishes is all that they can handle.  Perhaps what is happening in their lives doesn’t give them the strength to “be there” properly for what you require of them as a friend in need.  Maybe their manner of grieving for you will never be enough for you anyway??!!

But shouldn’t it be?

So I say let’s all back up and give the people in our lives a break.  Try to look at it from another perspective.  Maybe it has absolutely nothing to do with you (WHAT?) and your anger at the situation is completely unfounded and unfair.

Steven Covey, the author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People wrote about paradigm shifts (looking at something from a different angle).  He writes: “… he was traveling in a subway, a man gets in with his two sons, the sons are running all over the place bothering the people, this continues, so he finally gets irritated enough to ask the father why he doesn’t do something to control his kids. The father replies, “We just got back from the hospital where their mother died. I don’t know how to handle it and I guess they don’t either.”

Suddenly you see everything differently. That is the power of a paradigm shift. They are the same kids yelling and screaming in the subway, but you look at them and understand them in a different way. All of a sudden their lack of respect for you and your space may have a valid reason in your eyes and your opinion of how they handled you and your situation may not look so dire and ugly.

Perhaps this is how we should look at our lives with regards to how others fit into them.  We all have our own journeys that we are on…ones in which we may not be able to  understand or “be there” for others whom we may love otherwise but can not find the energy or ability to show at that moment.  This certainly doesn’t mean that we love our friends less or that we do not care.  Perhaps, even in our own pain, we should attempt to “see” those people from another angle.

Let’s be gentle with each other.  We all are not privy to what others may be going through even if we think we are.  Be ok with not always getting the reaction that you want (or think you need).  We all need to jump out of our own arrogance for five seconds to understand that when one begins to place requirements (spoken or expected) on people in order for them to be your friends, then that negates what a true friend really is.   There shouldn’t be strings attached.  Maybe, just maybe this has absolutely nothing to do with you after all.  This is a hard lesson that I admit to not wanting to learn either..  It is so much easier to blame others than just to be ok with what happens (or doesn’t)  Be happy, be healthy and have peace in your lives friends!

I am… In Good Health…Linda

TIP OF THE DAY:

Go to a local farmer’s market.  Even if you have never been or do not know what to buy-just go.  See the fresh vegetables, fruits, coffee, crafts, soaps, breads, fresh eggs just off the farm, grass fed (well cared for) meats, fresh homemade olive oils and the like.

Walk around and take in all the sights, sounds and smells of hard work, dedication to health and happiness.  Even if you don’t buy anything just feel the amazing energy that surrounds you. Feel the happiness-it feels almost like a sigh of relief.  I know this sounds silly but just go to see what I am talking about.

You are going to want to buy something, this I promise.  You may not know what to buy.  I say look for something out of your comfort zone.  Something just for you that you may not even have the courage to share with your family that you purchased for fear of ridicule.  Let it be your secret.  Or, buy some fresh oranges, apples or peaches.  Eat one as you walk around and let the cool juice drip down your arm!  Be a kid again-allow yourself to dream and feel free.  Let go of what is happening currently in your life for just a moment.

Take some of those oranges home and squeze them fresh and serve yourself the juice in a goblet or stemmed glass with some ice-you deserve no less. Savor it… it will taste different that I promise.

Or, get some fresh local tomatoes  and fresh rosemary-slice them up and lay them in a glass pyrex-type dish (cover the bottom with some cooking spray).  Cover each slice with fresh garlic, some leaves of fresh rosemary and a bit of parmesan cheese.  Place in 400 degree oven until cheese is melted sufficiently and serve as a side dish or even as your main course! YUUUMMMMYYY!

This is the work of the small business.  Local farm to market foods beyond compare.  God’s bounty and gifts to us all!  Enjoy it!  PEACE!


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A look in the Mirror

So I was congratulating a friend of mine for a new job he got when he told me that he follows my blog-do you KNOW how cool that feels to know someone follows your thoughts?  He suggested I do a blog about “spending the day not looking at ones-self not in the mirror, but in the eyes of the people you interact with. Reflections in the eyes of our children, our friends, can be very empowering.”.  So, of course, my first reaction is…so what are you saying about ME?  Back up against the wall…feeling attacked and suddenly like a victim.

Then I thought maybe he is on to something.  Maybe, just maybe there is something to his suggestion.  How do I look in others’ eyes? Does it matter?  I would venture to guess that my answer below is NOT what he had in mind…but this is how I feel….

Should we allow the eyes of others to be a mirror of us?  I think there is a fine line here.  My first thought is where does ANYONE think they get to be the authority on my life-needing to tell another person how they should be, how they should act or how they should think.  We are our own people and should not need the approval or opinions of others to make our lives whole.  But everyone is allowed to have their opinions-that’s one of the beautiful thing about human nature.  But mirrors?  Should what they see be the reflection of ourselves that we see?

I have spent my life worrying what others think -to the detriment of myself.  It makes me exhausted and stressed out because no matter what I do, I will NEVER be good enough in someone else’s eyes.  There will always be something that they do not like in me-something I do, something I say…So, in my friend’s mirror -is it me that I see that is not good enough?  Don’t people’s perspectives change depending upon what THEY are going through…so is it really about you or about what is happening in their lives at the time and are currently reacting to?  Maybe it isn’t about you at all-maye it is.  I am not sure one can totally judge one’s self on what they see in someone else’s eyes or how they react to you.  Is it vain to think that it is all about me?  I think there is a fine balance that must happen…we should be role models to our friends and children but mainly because we are role models to ourselves.    When we accept ourselves the way we are, then others can see confidence and we dont have to care what they opine about us.  This is SO easier said than done.  Can we learn a lesson from how we act towards others?  Should I look into the eyes of the people I encounter to find out who I am?

It is true I have spent my life getting to know and loving people then trampling on some to move toward the next step in my life.  I have weeded out those whom I feel do not have a place in my journey anymore.  I have been weeded out by others too.  And it does hurt.  Many times we do not know why-but we must accept that it is the journey of that person to NOT have us in their lives.  And it needs to be ok!

This also doesn’t mean that I do not love the people whom I have left (or that I am a bad person or need to change myself to conform), it just means I have gotten all that I need from them and must move on.  It doesn’t make me feel great to hurt others, but perhaps that is the journey that I need to take.  We grow and learn and change-our lives are not static.  We all have our own journeys to take.  I struggle every day to WANT to make mine about not conforming to what others think I should be doing or saying.  It’s just not that simple.

How DO I look in others’ eyes?

From the eyes of my best friend-I would venture to say that she loves me unconditionally and without prejudice.  Do I tick her off-duh, of course-that is human nature-but I know that no matter what I say or do, she is ALWAYS there for me and I for her.  She is one of my lifetime people.   We went through a journey that was the most difficult journey and learning experience for me ever.  I almost lost her forever but I found that I need her and I think she needs me.  I tucked my tail and she forgave me (incidentally that is the kind of person she is-pretty fantastic isn’t she?).   So how do I look in her eyes?  I don’t know-I can not live through her eyes-it’s too much stress and exhausting to make sure that she thinks the world of me-to act a certain way to ensure a certain outcome…I can only love her and be the best friend I can be and hope that is enough.  I know, however, that I am loved and she doesn’t judge me.  THAT is how it should be.

From the eyes of a former friend whom I said goodbye to, I am sure I look like a complete bitch.  It hurts to be rejected and believe it or not it hurts to reject.  But for this particular friend, I will always love the times we had and love her in my own way but needed to move on for MYSELF…How do I look in her eyes?  I do not know-we have no contact and frankly I can only hope she looks at the nice times we had and not at me through the eyes of hurt or anger-because those eyes are not always the most honest.  She is one of my reason/season people.  And I thank God every day for what she gave me.  She is a beautiful person and the world needs her here, I just needed to move on. I learned lessons from our friendship and from our “breakup” so sure perhaps she is a mirror.

From the eyes of my husband and children-I can only hope that the way I live my life and the way I am is ok with them (it has to be).  I can not be anyone else-just me.  And, I do not think they want me to be anyone else.  We are all content to know that we chose each other because God inteded that.  All I can do is teach my children to the best of my ability, the way I know how.  Unfortunately I know that this will put off some people in their futures-people will not like the way they do things or the way they think.  I have to instill in them that they can not be all things for all people but only good enough for themselves-AND IT IS OK.  Should they learn their own lessons from how they treat others-of course.  I am a proud wife and mother-am I perfect-um NO! But, I am doing the best I can and I think that when I look at how my children are, that I am doing a pretty damn good job.  Are they a mirror-you bet your booty they are and I am proud of me for that!  It isn’t always pretty but then again isn’t that what a mirror is for-to show you the REAL YOU?

So, should people be our mirrors?  Should we look at ourselves through other’s eyes?  I think it is indeed a learning experience to see how we are from the other’s perspective-but the truth is, we will never really know the real truth and I think it really doesn’t matter because people change and are all going through their own personal journey.  How I look to someone now is not the same as how I looked to them a few years ago or will be in a few years from now-like I said EVERYONE changes-their perspectives change.  I just feel like if we are not good enough through someone else’s eyes, perhaps it’s time to move on.  I have indeed learned many many things through the eyes of others-but this is because I was my own catalyst-I made these things happen.  So perhaps the best mirror we need to look into is our own.

I am blessed to have had so many people run through my life-they are part of what made me who I am today.  So to those “mirrors” THANK YOU for allowing me (whether you liked it or not) to grow and learn about myself.

I am…

In Good Health…

Linda

Reason Season Lifetime

People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, It is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, Or to provide you with guidance and support, To aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, The season eventually ends.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; Those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person anyway; And put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life, Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Author – Unknown